martes, 20 de mayo de 2014

There are no walls that you and I cannot jump. Who said it would be easy to live with your disabilities ?….Who…?

The boy who is going to make a great man must not make up his mind merely to overcome a thousand obstacles, but to win in spite of a thousand repulses and defeats.
Never be afraid to offer a smile; sure the risk is that a few foolish people may misinterpret my kindness as weakness, but the sweet reward is that as you make new friends and encourage others, the foolish will learn the error of their ways because you did at least show them your teeth.
Replace the word can’t with can. Know that you can, believe that you can, and know with all of your heart that you will. You will succeed in spite of any obstacles that may try to hinder you! There’s so much power in having a positive attitude, positive mindset, and positive outlook.
It was so risky and so scary, and yet at the same time, so beautiful. Maybe the truth was, it shouldn't be easy to be amazing. Then everything would be. It's the things you fight for and struggle with before earning that have the greatest worth. When something is difficult to come by, you'll do that much more to make sure it's even harder -if not impossible- to lose
Wanting something is not enough. You must hunger for it. Your motivation must be absolutely compelling in order to overcome the obstacles that will invariably come your way.
Show me someone who has done something worthwhile, and I'll show you someone who has overcome adversity.
One who gains strength by overcoming obstacles possesses the only strength which can overcome adversity.


If you have a positive attitude and constantly strive to give your best effort, eventually you will overcome your immediate problems and find you are ready for greater challenges.





We are a proof of life and perseverance:
You and I hand in hand are the winning team.  
A Fighter so strong that I grabbed with the same intensity. These last few days have been tough and a mental block attacked me without warning 

I want to talk to you about me and my son, as I have overcome every barrier and obstacle that comes in our way when we have least expected them to appear . I do not want to be an inspiration to anyone, much less an example , this is just the daily life of a mother with a child with special needs, and their constant struggle to live in a world not suitable for people with Down Syndrome and Autism . I'll start by telling our story. I am the mother of Marco Antonio. He was born in Peru on a May 28, 2001 . My delivery was by caesarean and had all the care necessary during pregnancy. The day of his birth in the delivery room silence gripped the specialists attending me. My son barely released his first cry to present to the world. I panicked . Then came the question that every mother makes. "Is my baby okay?!" Despite the silence of the doctors and nurses I knew my son was with us in spirit and soul and body. The Pediatrician came in and said, " Your child has Down syndrome ." I remained silent for three seconds. It seemed like an eternity and despite the exhaustion of childbirth without taking a breath I said "Come here baby, so you know your mom loves you more than her life and celebrate your arrival to this world. " That was my first encounter with Marquito . We looked at eachother, full of love and knew that God's hand was holding ours to guide us on this path full of strength , patience , clarity and the tools we needed to understand; And at that moment we became an indestructible team . Throughout the years, many have lived experiences that are part of having a child with Down Syndrome , because he has been diagnosed with autism , asthma , hip dysplasia , epilepsy , is fed with a stomach tube , but beyond all these tests what is most important to me as a mother is that I managed to internalize in my mind and heart. Marquito is my inspiration and a beautiful arrival into my life which has blessed me and continues to bless me with moments of happiness. The achievements that he is reaching for many may be imperceptible or not important but for me they are prizes, that is the result of our teamwork , perseverance and the connection we had from the first second we saw each other. I am totally in love with my son. I love my eldest son and I have an intense love for my husband of American nationality, who knew how to discover like me, that Marquito was a child of light and received him with all the beauty of a man who loves and supports a woman can proudly say will never abandon the fight . Marquito makes me touch the sky. I exalt . It makes me a better woman , a better mother , better sister, better wife , better friend, better person. Every small step he takes is like the passing of an Olympic runner for my family and I . There is nothing Marquito can not reach, and there is an amazing team working with him on this path that is lived with optimism and enthusiasm . Every morning when I wake up I thank God for this wonderful human being named " Marquito " who had the wisdom to make me feel that life has been very generous to me . Now we face a new challenge that we'll get together and with the grace of God. I am a positive mother , who said it would be easy to live with a child with special needs? Sure it's not easy, but it is difficult. For that we are the mothers, we care for and protect our children . They speak of the metal block and I got over it , and what I face every morning : The term emotional intelligence refers to the human ability to sense , understand, control and modify emotional states in oneself and in others. Emotional intelligence is not to stifle the emotions , but direct them and balance them. When you feel emotional distress , whether anxiety, sadness , guilt, fear or any other painful emotion , our first impulse is to try to get rid of it ASAP. This desire to get rid of the discomfort makes you center your attention on him, but do not you think to focus your attention on something makes rigidly increase further ? When this happens, the emotions and thoughts that go through your mind get you, you dominate . It is they who are in control of you, when it should be the other way around . Why, then , should we feel identified with the changing sea ? Why let them get you waves ? If you let that happen , you see those waves dragged , beaten by them; you wallow , you drown , you will suffer. You have to be like the surfer surfing waves on those controlling them , does not identify with them, do not let it catch , but uses them at will, to have fun and enjoy yourself. You can do the same with the contents of your mind. You can choose to not let them get you , do not believe everything your mind tells you, do not take seriously everything that comes in it, do not wallow in painful emotions trying to fight them. When a particularly violent wave arises , the surfer falls off the table and accepting that things are, that sometimes appear unpleasant waves. But the surfer does not try to run away from the wave because he knows that's impossible , just accept it, know that sometimes there are bad waves you have to live with , pull the table and then back onto it as you can , focusing on the waves in front of him at that moment, slide over and still enjoy them . Learn to see the contents of our mind like waves that come and go , seen those waves , describe : " Just a wave called wrath arise , is very large and seems devastating , I think it's better to do nothing and let it lose its intensity, " or, " has emerged a wave of sadness in me , has a dark gray color and is thick and cold . " By doing this we are accepting and recognizing the contents of our mind, but at the same time we are moving away from them enough to not let the waves catch you and take you to the bottom in a spiral that escalates going all the way down . We can not avoid pain, it is part of life , we can not avoid the creation of objectionable content in our mind, but we can avoid getting caught and we drag the bottom , we can choose not to identify too much with them. Just as we can choose what waves of your mind you want to surf , we can choose to accept whatever arises in our mind without trying to run away, because that's the only way you lose your strength and fade; And is that the contents of our mind , however as intense as it may become our thoughts are like waves , that always end up fading away , unless you feed them to devote excessive attention , attempting to fight them instead of letting things things take its course when a big wave comes towards you : falling over, jumping into the water and disappear. We continue in the struggle with love, light and consistency.

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